Ladies what do you think?
9 Jul 2006 06:14:50 -0700
Thought provoking, a lady in England had a baby at 62, dear Lord what a
scary thought of having a child at that age, I'm only 57 and wouldn't
even cherish the thought,. Diapers, chasing a toddler, school, and look
how old will she be when he's a teenager. My grandkids can run me
ragged can you imagine a newborn, she had the child because her husband
has never had children and he's 60, what where they thinking? Ladybear
Particularly since she's a child psychologist! 8-(
She must be mad!!
That is truly bizarre. You would think she'd know better.
I read that as 'childish psychologist' lol
Perhaps your reading is more appropriate! It really makes one
wonder--even more than one was wondering ere one knew that!
Aye, and that as well....
I had Leah when I was 40, closer to 41, and from that vantage
point, I'd agree she is crazy!
well, guys have thoughts here, too. I recognize, ladybear, that your
concern is of a child, and that has my highest respect. Still, the
overall question is committing to anything long-term at "our age."...
on the child aspect, I read an interesting article recently that helped
demystify the term "having a baby"... that's so romantic.. what's
really happening is that you're "making a person..." a person who needs
to be cleaned, protected, educated, taught moral values, prepared to
enter society at kindergarten and later levels, building a new person who
will one day step away into their own life. that is so much more than the
cuddly term of "having a baby"... and if more future parents really
thought about it... whether they're 20 or 60, we'd have better families
and better parenting..
was the woman getting her priorities mixed up? I think so. although the
same scenario plays out many more times for twenty-somethings... "gee,
sweetie, I'd like to have a baby..." or "gee, if we had a baby we
would have a stronger marriage..." and the child is born into a family,
soon to divorce. babies don't heal problems. they're a commitment to the
future that the parents will manage to and commit to.
however, there is a follow-on aspect here... any commitment for the long-
term. Dalin and I had been married for almost 45 years when I retired and
we adopted a puppy. Puppies are 2-yr olds that live 15 years... a
commitment that interrupts and fills each day... certainly, dalin and I
would have more time for each other without some puppy demanding time
each day... but the shared commitment to care for the little dog is also
a bonding agent for day-to-day life... maybe, just maybe, the decision
of that woman to give birth will achieve her goals. a high-stakes bet?
you bet. dumb? you bet. but the payoff is great if it works... :) but
still dumb... he might leave her...
According to the feminist mantra: "My body, my decision," to which I would
add, "Your responsibility."