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Crush on teacher- how to make it go away?
23 Jun 2006 20:31:08 -0700
misc.education
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Anntaylor2006...
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Last semester I had a huge crush on one of my profs in college. Nothing
really happened besides a few conversations. But the feeling is not
going away either. I keep thinking about him, and the times we had. I
think it may be that he appeared at a time when I was really down and
encouraged me.
Anyways, it's really annoying, knowing I can't really say or do
anything about it, what should I do to make it go away?Help,
A.T
laraine...
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I would recommend getting to know many
other people in a social way, over time if
necessary, and then you can certainly transfer
your feelings to someone else. It's possible
you can still be occasionally friendly with
this professor, but I wouldn't push it beyond
that unless you two really get on well. And
it sounds like you don't know him well enough
to know if he has another relationship--it's
likely--some profs are very popular.
I would also NOT recommend taking
another class from that person. I think
you're likely right about his appearing
at a time when you needed encouragement--
but, you see, teachers are supposed to do
that, and it doesn't mean that he sees it in
a personal way. What could also happen is
that if he criticizes you at a professional level
in the future, even nicely, you could take it
much too personally.
I am saying some of this based on
my own personal experience (long in the
past, thank goodness), and quite frankly,
it also depends on the individual and how
ready you are for such interactions.
For me, the older I got, the easier it was--at
20-ish, I didn't find it easy. It sounds like
you are fairly young, and might not
even know exactly what you want to do
careerwise yet. A professor will take his/her
subject extremely seriously, and you might
not just yet.
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