punishment

I'm a 13 yo girl. I'd like to know if other parents agree I should be a
bit resentful of my mom.

She's kinda nice, caring, show love, a wonderful mom. But she has a
habit I don't like. When I or my litlle brother do something wrong, she
almost always gives a punishment. She's understanding, it's never a
harsh punishment, it's just something she calls a lesson to make us
think. This makes me a bit resentful, because no one is perfect,
everyone makes mistakes and I don't think people should be punished
every time they do a mitake. Right? I must say in my case it's not that
bad, cause my mom shows love even when she punishes. I know she's sure
shes doing her best, but she could be more flexible. We are good kids,
we are no monsters.

Last Friday I did something I know I shouldn't. I ended up giving up to
some friends and went with them to a mall in the car of a 19 yo guy
that my parents don't know. Nothing bad happened, he's a nice guy, but
I know I shouldnt do that and of course I'm not allowed. But, well, I
didnt think. I guess my mom would never find out, but I told her and
apologized. I told her the truth, agreed it was a mistake. Frankly, I
dont think I deserved any punishment, I didnt do anything awful. My mom
said she was proud of my honesty, said I was forgiven, gave me a big
hug, several kisses...and a punishment. She said I was a wonderful
girl but needed a lesson to remind me I must think before acting.I
didnt make a fuss, just said, Oh mom, come on, I just made a mistake.
But though she called me hun and showed love, she didnt back off. So,
for a week, I'll have to spend one hour a day doing some extra
chores in the kitchen or something like that (and wearing a frilly
pinafore, something mom finds really sweet and I dont like). Just "to
make me think", because she loves me so much.

Ok, this is a light punishment, and though I was being punished I had a
very good weekend, had a lot of fun. But I dont think this is fair.
After all Im a good girl, dont get in troubles, get good grades.
Everyone has the right to make a mistake sometimes, no one is God!
Well, of course I=B4ll obey, of course I love my mom and wont make any
fuss. I know it's much better to have a mom like her than one that
never punishes but dont care, either. But frankly, Im a bit resentful
and dont know if I should tell mom how I feel.

I'd lke advice from smeone older and more experienced than me

Penny Gaines...

Hi Jane

I'm pleased you're doing well at school and don't get into trouble.

Everyone has the right to make mistakes, but what you did wasn't
really a mistake. You deliberately did something you knew your mom
would object to.

OK, it might have been tough to say to your friends "I can't come".
You might know the 19yo, and know he is nice. But even so, you
*chose* to go.

Being a teenager means sometimes you will resent your parents. This
time, I wouldn't tell. If it had been a genuine error on your part,
then maybe tell them. But not this time.

Oh and the apron - could you find an apron that you think is OK and see
if your mum would let you use that instead of the frilly one?