Potty training gone wrong?

I have an almost 4 year old boy. He'll be 4 in a month.
Potty training went well until a couple of months ago. He was
consistantly doing very well.
Now he has accidents 3 or 4 times a day.
Day care is not pleased.

Not sure what to do. We bought him new underware hoping that would be
incentive.
He keeps wetting himself.
We don't want to punish him or yell, that'll just give him a complex.

JennP...

This is one of the few instances that I would do some type of reward system
for toilet training. He's four, and should be responsive to it. Let him
choose his reward. Before you try that though, you might want to bring him
to the doctor to rule out any infections.

He also wants to wear his shoes on the wrong feet and he grinds his

Welches...

#1 wanted to do this, so I let her. Half way through the morning and she
decided to change them as they weren't comfortable. Didn't do it again.
She's also been out in non-matching shoes at that age because she wanted to.
If he wants to wear them on the wrong feet, then let him. If he's being
rebelious that'll sort that out! But imo it's more likely he just wants to
try it out.

and he grinds his

teeth pretty badly at night.
I only mention that because it could be related to the potty training
issue.
For example he may be being rebelious.
He may be having a nervous problem.

JennP...

I don't really see how grinding teeth and wearing shoes on the wrong feet
show rebellion. My son had trouble getting his shoes on the right feet until
right around when he turned five. If he is *choosing* to wear his shoes on
the wrong feet then it could be a control thing and then I'd just let him.
It's a small battle to pick. As for the teeth? Talk to his dentist or
doctor. Also, you might want to find out *exactly* what is going on at the
daycare. Especially since you say they aren't pleased. What exactly is
happening when he has an accident? HTH

We need ideas. How can we get him back on track with the toilet
training?

Welches...

Check day care isn't punishing/being cross with him. That could make him
nervous and stressed about it. Make sure that they assume he's doing his
best.
Check he hasn't an infection-this can cause this.
Try a start chart. Either give him a star every time he goes in the toilet
or (my preference in this situation) if he hasn't wet himself in a given
time. ie. one for morning, one for afternoon, or whatever length of time
seems appropriate.
If you don't, then ask him whether he needs to go before going out, or
before starting a game so he doesn't have to stop in the middle of a game.
It can be just that he needs reminding.
If the accidents are mainly at daycare, then is he comfortable using the
toilets? For example #1 didn't like the toilets at a particular shop because
the hand drier was really sensitive and she hated it going off when she
walked past it. If he doesn't like using them, then he may well be putting
of going and then having an accident. #1 also didn't tend to go at
pre-school because they had to ask before going (it was in a different room
so needed someone to go with them) and she didn't like asking.
Debbie

Thanks for the ideas,