WIFE HUSBAND---> EQUAL???

Another subject I'd like to discuss is, although women proved that they

Rosalie B....

There are a lot of jobs that some women can do just as well as most
men, and some things they do better than most men. That's in the
workplace. It has little or nothing to do with a marriage which is
between two individual and different people. In a marriage, there are
always some things that one of the partners will do better than the
other partner.

could do just as good as men, so many men act like their women are
supposed to be their sevant!! Even if a woman does not make a single

Rosalie B....

There are some men like that. I made sure not to marry one of them
(and I had two proposals from boys like that, which I did not accept).
One thing you can do to avoid marrying a man with this mindset is to
watch how he treats his mother. If his mother has made herself the
family slave, then don't go there.

doallar.. does it mean the man of the house has the right to <--- call
him self man of the house?? You know lay all the rules, have his
expectations, and the wife is not more than a (let's not say servant
again) well, assistant...hahaha.

To men in here please comment and to all the women in here...SHOUT OUT
LOUD..

tell me your thoughts about what a wife's role is and hudband too ;)....

Rosalie B....

When my husband proposed to me he explained that since he was going to
be gone a significant amount of time (in the Navy) that it would be up
to me to run the house when he was gone. Our household was set up
like that. There was a difference in interface when he would come
home, but he was careful not to start ordering me around like he would
an enlisted man and I was careful not to make decisions without
consulting him like I would have done when he was out at sea.

I always paid the bills and handled the money and I still do after 47
years of marriage. My mom did the same for all the years of her
marriage and for the 33 years after my dad died that she was widowed.
I think it is important for the wife to handle the money and if a man
tried to give his wife "an allowance", I'd not put up with that.
Currently, we have two different checking accounts with both our names
on them, but I pay the bills from mine.

My mother and I both love(d) our husbands and so we want them to be
happy - that's not the same as making oneself a doormat. If a wife
does that IMHO it is partly her fault.

While it is true that on a boat there can be only one captain - in any
kind of a emergency one person gives the orders and the other people
obey without arguing, a marriage is not generally like being on a boat
because there isn't the necessity for immediate action.

We've had several disagreements and most of them were because one or
the other of us hasn't actually told the other one why we want to do
something (or not do something). For instance when my husband was in
pilot training, he wanted us to move closer to the airfield and I saw
no reason why we should do all that for such a short move (maybe 35 or
40 miles). So I was resisting until I forced from him the confession
that he was afraid he'd have an accident on the way home because he
was tired. So then of course we moved, and I wouldn't have resisted
if I had known the real reason.

I guess what I'm saying is that both people in a marriage 'count', but
that doesn't mean that they are the same.