[OT] Devastated

Within 24 hours, I have apparently lost my best friend, and DH is
moving out.

Lisa Katt...

HUGS!!!!
Elisabet

The friend was a shock. I still don't understand what happened.

DH and I have been talking about a three-month trial separation for
some time. Today, he actually made arrangements and is moving out
over the weekend.

HRFLTiger...

Many, many hugs and purrs.

{{{{GINGER}}}}}

Helen M

I am devastated.

Victor Martinez...

Lots of purrs.

Adrian A...

{{{{{{{{{{{{Ginger-lyn}}}}}}}}}}}} I'm so sorry to read this, I wish I could

Kreisleriana...

We're always here.

Theresa

Make Levees, Not War

do more than send purrs. :-(

Christina Websell...

I don't know what to say.
I can only give you

((((big hugs))))

Tanada...

(((((((((((((((((((((((Ginger))))))))))))))))))))

I'm so sorry.

Pam S.

Yowie...

Don't know what to say, GingerLyn, but you have our purrs, our wags, our
giggles, our prayers and our hugs. Please look after yourself in this aweful
time.

Dan M...

Oh no! I am so very sorry. I know it's unlikely, but if there's anything
at all I can do to be of assistance, just holler. I'll include you in my
meditations this weekend. And of course we're sending our best purrs your
way, too.

Takayuki...

I'm so sorry, Ginger-lyn!

Annie Wxill...

Ginger-lyn,

Healing purrs and gentle hugs are on the way.

Annie, crew for Cinder and Rosie

jmcquown...

OMG, GL! I don't know what to say. I'm not big on talking on the phone but
if you have Yahoo Messenger I'm jillian726. I'm better at typing than
talking on the phone. Anyway, I'm here to listen and help in any way I can.

Sending Persia purrs and Peaches chirps your way.

Jo Firey...

Purrs and such on the way. No matter what, for the next bit be as kind and
generous to yourself as you would be to someone else that was in pain.

Monique Y. Mudama...

I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself. You have the strength to make
it through this.

polonca12000...

I'm so very sorry to hear this, Ginger-lyn. We are thinking of you.
Please try to take really good care of yourself. We are here for you.
We are sending lots and lots of purrs and very gentle hugs just for you,
Polonca and Soncek

kilikini...

I'm just trying to catch up on this NG. I somehow missed the original post.
I am so, so very sorry Ginger-Lyn. We're sending lots of good thoughts and
purrs your way.

kili <--- Pua, Chloe & Tyrone are swishing their tails and cocking their
heads awaiting further news.

dnr...

I'm afraid all I can offer you is something I've told several of my
close friends over time: there are much worse things than being alone....

jmcquown...

AMEN! I told my ex-fiance when I broke up with him, I can be alone without
your help. He didn't understand what I was talking about. Oh well.

Monique Y. Mudama...

LOL -- how true! And the fact that he didn't get it is just further
proof you were right to leave him.

Some of them said I was insensitive and cruel to say that....some
agreed at the time.

Monique Y. Mudama...

My mom has always told me, "You can be more lonely with the wrong
person than you could ever be alone." It's so true. But when you're
in a relationship like that, you may not see it that way. You don't
realize you're lonely. You blame your unhappiness on other things.
You might tell yourself that your SO couldn't make it without you, so
you owe it to them to stick around.

Anyway, to address GL, I don't know if both of you were unhappy, or
just him, or how that worked. But I know that you can love someone
and still not be right for each other. It hurts like hell, doesn't
it?

But every one of them (and they don't know each other) eventually
thanked me and said they remembered what I said...and found it
to be true.
After you get a certain age there is not much ever that can devastate
you. I am going through some unpleasant changes myself (the reverse
of my "advice", LOL) but I can see by your website pic you ain't at
that age yet, kid, and also look at life an entirely diff way than I do.
Still, best wishes for strength and victory over these changes for you.

Monique Y. Mudama...

I think you're partly right that it's age, or more accurately, life
experience. But I also know there are a lot of older people who are
definitely still devastated by life changes. Give yourself credit for
being centered enough that you know you can ride out any storm.

I've just finished reading The Power Of Now, by Eckhart Tolle. I
really like the practical advice, even though I think some of his
explanations are a little ... well, they're not for me. But anyway,
he talks about how we're constantly carrying on conversations in our
heads, reliving the past and worrying about the future, rather than
truly experiencing the current moment. And one powerful idea he has,
that I've really come to latch onto, is that all mental/emotional pain
comes from an unwillingness to accept what is. We're always imagining
that things could be better, so we cause ourselves pain by wishing it
so.

jmcquown...

Indeed, best wishes and purrs for strength because it's none of it is an
easy thing.

glsummer...

I like that pic, but it makes me look much younger than I really am --
I'm actually 50!

I know there are worse things than being alone, but this is so painful
and difficult. I have not been alone in a good long while, and there
are things I cannot do by myself anymore (like carry heavy things of
cat litter). I am hoping a friend or two will be able to help me out
on things like that.

And I will miss him, as bad as it has been for the last year and a
quarter.

Ginger-lyn

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Christine Burel...

I'm so sorry, {{{{{{{Ginger-lyn}}}}}}}! Sending purrs and healing thoughts
your way. Be kind to yourself during this difficult time.
Christine and Oreo, Midnight, Robin & Tucker

Ginger-lyn

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