The last post I am going to make about Tessie

Since people think I'm such a bad meowmie and they're so perfect I
won't be posting anything further to this group about Tessie, Scout,
Silver or any other feline I happen to encounter or hear about.

jXwXeXrXmXoXnXt...

Hey, in case I'm one of the posters you're talking about, I'd like to
say that I certainly don't think you're a bad cat mom! But I've had both
good and bad experiences with kitty introductions, depending on how I've
handled them. And I could see that you might have some trouble if your
established cats get into the habit of being aggressive toward Tessie
because she interacted with them too soon.

You might have seen my post from a couple of weeks ago, where I
described how I integrated Roxy and Smudge, which I took great pains to
do slowly and carefully, resulting in their being really good buddies -
as compared with my much less careful integration of Licky, who to this
day does not get along well with Smudge.

So all I was saying was, "been there, done that" - in both ways, and
I was hoping that you would have a better experience if you took your
time with it.

Please don't leave - I have to find out how this one turns out!! :)

Victor Martinez...

I must have missed something. What's this about?

Yowie, Catnipped, Victor, Dave, Britta and everyone else who posts
their sweet cat stories will be missed.

Yowie...

Unless someone has said something in private e-mail, I'm as lost as everyone
else. All I can see is advice, which is not the same as implying anything
about your capabilities as a Meowmie (we already know tha tyou are a *good*
meowmie!). Advice is advice, there to take up or ignore as we see fit.

Now I'm worried. Are you OK, hon? Nothing wrong with a break from the group
if you feel you need it, but you *will* be missed, as will Tessie, Scout &
Silver. Please, when you feel better, come back.

rrb...

Judging by your past posts you seem to have a good way with words -
better than I do in any case. As I think she is gone from this group
perhaps you could send her a private email explain this or whatever you
think? I too think she just needs a break from this group. I hope she
returns eventually.

Magic Mood JeepŠ...

Karen, *PLEASE* don't leave RPCA. Just because some people don't understand
that others may not have the room in their house, nor the time, to take
*months* to integrate a new cat into the home. Please ignore their comments
and continue to post about your beautiful cats (Tessie looks like Betty &
*Weeble*!!!!)
Nancy Lee
AKA
Magic Mood Jeep
The ONE and ONLY
lefthanded-pathetic-paranoid-psychotic-sarcastic-wiseass-ditzy former-blonde
in Bloomington! (And proud of it, too)Š

jmcquown...

I don't think anyone here thinks you are a "bad meowmie", they are just
trying to give you integration advice based on experience.

sriddles...

Karen, please copy and paste the graphs, or even just lines, that you
interpret as personal criticism or that suggest you are a bad meomie,
so that I, and the others, can at least explain or know what you are
talking about.
No one, me included, wants to convey *anything* except help so that
Tessie becomes a part of your family and has a forever home.
I have been there. I have made all the mistakes and I've told you about
Jacky, the cat that I rushed too much integrating. . All I wanted to do
was help you. I thought that was why you posted for advice, in the
beginning.
And again, please copy and paste what you consider offensive, so that
we know what you are talking about, and how you think it makes you look
like a "bad meowmie."
Sherry

Christina Websell...

I don't understand, Karen, truly I don't. I haven't seen any posts that
suggest you are a bad meowmie, why do you think so?
I have seen posts that suggest that you are expecting too much, too quickly
with the integration. That could be true. It does not mean you are a bad
meowmie, I rather took it to be offering good advice, myself. Didn't you?

Tweed
(who knows nothing about cats)

Adrian...

Please stay!

polonca12000...

I certainly do *not* think you are a bad meowmie, Karen, I was so glad
to hear you decided to give Tessie a second chance. I do hope you will
stay with us - I love hearing about your kitties and looking at the pics
of them.
Lots of best wishes, purrs and hugs,
Polonca and Soncek

mlbriggs...

I am puzzled too. I have faithfully read her posts. MLB

djmaizels...

Oh dear! I don't understand why you have been offended, and hope you
won't stop posting about all your kitties. I for one was so pleased that
you both decided to give Tessie a second chance, and am sure she will
soon become accepted by Silver and Scout.

glsummer...

I'm as lost as everyone else. I haven't read all the Tessie posts,
but have read quite a few, and posted once with a couple of
suggestions, but certainly not with any criticism, just my experience.

Karen, I hope you'll re-think leaving. Sometimes, and I know this
happens to me, I think we just are at a point where we feel more
emotionally vulnerable than usual, and things hit us harder than they
otherwise would. Give it a little time, and maybe you'll feel better.

Hang in there.

Ginger-lyn

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