May I rant again? (sorry, OT)

My dear, sweet dad just won't stop bugging me about my insurance license.
*YES* I passed the exams (all 4 of them). NO, the state hasn't sent me my
license yet. No, there's nothing I can do to get it any faster. It hasn't
even been two weeks since I took the exams. The company that gives the
exams has to send the paperwork to the state along with my money and the
test results (and everyone elses). That probably took them a couple of
days.

I don't know what to do to make him understand (1) we're dealing with
government bureaucracy; (2) I'm not the only one who is waiting for a
license.

Chakolate...

So say something like, 'Gee, dad, I thought I told you. I've decided I
don't want to do insurance. I've applied to Ringling Bros Clown College.
Have you seen my stilts anywhere?'

He just called and suggested I drive 3-1/2 hours to Nashville to pick up my

jXwXeXrXmXoXnXt...

Perhaps you could invite him to go to Nashville and pick it up for you,
if he's in such a hurry? :)

jmcquown...

LOL! Too bad he's even further away from Nashville than I am. Would have
been a snazzy come-back :)

license! Uh, Dad, I can't just walk in there and say "give me my license".
They may not have even processed the paperwork yet!

He doesn't understand, this is not the way things work. I have *not* told
him I'm going to meet up with my LLL next week because that would really set
him off. Not that my license arriving in the mail in the meantime is going
to mean I have an instant job, but he seems to think so. (sigh)

Meanwhile, my resume is updated and posted on several job hunting web sites.
I've applied for a couple of jobs. I don't know what else he thinks I can
do. I've been telling him all along my getting this license is not MAGIC.

EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque)...

Can't you simply tell him you don't want to discuss it?
That you're a grown woman, and, father or not, it's really
none of his business what you do with your life? (No, I
know you can't - it's easy enough for an outsider to say,
but we never entirely outgrow our reluctance to simply tell
well-meaning parents to "take a hike" when they refuse to
relinquish control over us, do we?)

Why do parents find it so hard to accept the fact that
children grow up, develop their own interests, and must make
their own mistakes in life? (Also that what our parents may
regard as "mistakes" do not necessarily count as such in our
eyes?)

sriddles...

Jill, God love him, your dad is man. Men (in my experience) want

Sam...

A bushel basket of coping purrs on the way, Jill. It's really hard when
parents won't stop trying to control our lives (BTDT!)

results. They want to get the job done. They don't have patience and
don't like to wait. They'd rather jump in and "fix things" than talk
about them.
DH & I, it took forever for me to figure this out. The minute I would
start moaning about a problem, he would jump in and want to "fix it."
He never understood that sometimes I just wanted to be "heard". That I
had things under control and didn't need him to jump in and fix them.

NMR...

Oh god we lost another one to being trained us real men are a dying breed we
get trained everyday between cats and woman. Us men can't win we are losing
the battle to be bull head, impatient, stubborn and not ask for directions.
:-)

What the heck am I babbling about I have been broken along time ago I have
even been forced to ask for directions dang woman and cats :-)

Jill fathers are all like this we only want what is best for our little
girls and yes you will be our little girls till they day we cross the
bridge. You have to either shock him into believing you one way to do this
is to send him the paperwork that tells you how ling it takes for the
average processing of your license. Either that or get his attention onto

jmcquown...

There is no paperwork that states this. It's just a matter of how long it
takes the state to process all the applications (and not just insurance
licenses - securities licenses, real estate licenses, etc.)

Either

something else men are easily duped into this. We are creatures of habits
you just got to figure out what to do. I don't know if your mom is alive
and how much your father is capable of travel in the physical or financial
means. if they are ok get mom to help if she can and get them to go on
vacation or start planning this. Make your dad do the planning get his mind

jmcquown...

Ah, but they can't go anywhere. Dad's 81 years old and just finishing up a
second round of treatment for lymphoma. They never went on vacations even
when they were much younger, come to think of it. It's just not something
they do.

away from you.

I also have an idea it will involve you biting your tongue but it will be
worth it. Can you spend maybe a weekend with your family if they can get

jmcquown...

Nice idea but they are 13 hours away from me and 100+ miles from the nearest
airport. Not to mention, Dad doesn't want me to see him in his present
"condition". (sigh)

out of the house. Do a parents outing plan something that they both would
enjoy. I have links where you can find out what to do in the city where you
reside at. It gets there mind off of you if he starts talking about you
getting a job and the insurance. this is what you tell him tell him dad I
love you so much but I wanted to spend some time with you before it got to
hectic for when I get my license and my job I probably won't see you all
that much or be able to talk to you. I just wanted to spend some time with
you before any of this happens so can we go back to our time and worry about
this later. This will work guarantee

Jill on a personally note I don't know how you are set financially but I
would send your dad a I was thinking of you gift nothing fancy I have a few
places that I can recommend on line to do this

jmcquown...

I'm unemployed if that tells you anything :) Dad would shoot me if I spent
money to send him something. I do write (snail mail - they wouldn't know a
computer if it bit them) every couple of weeks and we talk at least once a
week on the phone.