To all those who asked why Kajikit left

For all of you who don't know me I am John, Kajikit's DH.

This all came about when everybody gave her advice about intergrating
Tessie into the house. Realise by house I mean apartment. I am of the
opinion that the intergration needs to happen fast and that we need to
let the girls sort it out.

I do not mean that they should be allowed ro badger the kitten but I
do mean that the kitten needs to learn her place in the household. Its
worked for near on 40 fosterlings I think it should work on Tessie,
Silver and Scout.

The only one who really seems put out by this is Scoutm but it has
caused a profound change ih er behavior as well, you see she is more
affectionate to Karen than ever.

Karen got upset when everyone was telling her that she was hurting
poor Tessie, plus the fact that Tessie is being a TOP CLASS

Monique Y. Mudama...

I'm the first to admit that I can't keep up with all the posts here,
but I only saw one post that might have fit that description. The
rest were concerned.

I've (pardon the expression) screwed the pooch by rushing an
introduction before, and it was a disaster on so many levels ... I
know that for lots of people, just plopping the cats together works,
but if your cats are in whatever percentage that doesn't work for, it
can be devastating. Oscar was traumatized, none of us had a moment's
rest for a few months, and we had to find Eros a new home. Would they
have gotten along eventually, had I followed protocol? I honestly
don't know, but maybe Oscar wouldn't have been so miserable.

Which is not to say I know what's best for your cats and your
household; it's just to say, I know first hand what can happen if it
*doesn't* work out.

HooliKitten add in that Scout and Silver were acting particularly glum
that afternoon and you get a good reason for her reaction.

Yowie...

Not *everyone* was telling her she was hurting poor Tessie. Only the
smallest minority were anything but 100% supportive.

She will be back eventually but to those who posted that she was doing
a bad job or hurting the cats, please keep in mind that every
situation is different and that what you did may or may not apply
before telling someone they did something wrong.

Yowie...

Very true.

My wife was very upset when she left, and I was going to write a
scathing reply, however; upon reading the posts and understanding
where they came from I can see that they might not have been meant the
way that they came across to Kajikit, that being said, I still take
her side.

glsummer...

Hi, John,

Thanks for letting us know what is going on. I am another who hopes
that Kajikit will come back soon, as she is missed.

Ginger-lyn

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sriddles...

I am very sorry about the misunderstanding. I honestly thought that
when Kajikit asked for advice, she would understand that any post made
was written with the best intentions for Tessie at heart and not for
her to interpret as criticism. No one, and I mean *no one* intended to
convety that she was doing a bad job, or hurting the cats.
Everyone who posted wanted *only* for the integration to succeed. MaryL
in particular, obviously spent a *lot* of time composing a lengthy,
detailed post, even including links and photos. She even offered to buy
some Feliway and have it shipped to you. I honestly thought she should
have been thanked for caring that much, not accused of being mean or
hateful.
I wish you all the best sucess. There is some very good information
written by folks who are experts in feline behavior re: integrating a
new cat. Perhaps they would be of help to you.

Sherry

kilikini...

It's so funny, because when I took on Miss Pua, she was so incredibly happy
that I had other cats in the house. She and Tyrone play for hours! They
pull on my husband's boot strings, each behind a door (must be more fun that
way?) and they sleep within scant inches of each other. She and Chloe are
still trying to adjust, and it's been since August last year. Still, there
is a little hissing going on, but no fights. If anything, Chloe's more put
out that her biological brother is more enamored with the stray. :~)

sriddles...

That's cute! Where did Miss PUa come from? Did she have other cats
around?
Boots and Frank are buddies. They do everything together. Biskit is
such a loner, I think she'd be happy as an only cat. She is not
aggressive, but she stays to herself all the time.
Sherry

I am including some very good links that all deal with the issues that

Yowie...

I wouldn't expect a good husband to do anything else.

Please make sure she gets lots of cuddles and hugs and that she knows she's
loved. And when she's ready, please also let her know that the is a Kajikit
sized hole left in RPCA that only she can fill. We'll be waiting.