[OT] Maybe things are looking up

They're worse on the DH front, but at least it looks like I've
recovered one of my "lost" friendships.

He came over last night and we talked for four or five hours, even
stuff from years ago (we've known each other half my life). Worked
through a lot, got very honest about a lot, and it looks like we are
very solidly dear friends once again. He is going to help me through

jXwXeXrXmXoXnXt...

I'm so happy to hear this! It's hard to lose a longtime friend,
especially when everything else is going so badly and you really
need support.

some of this divorce stuff, too, whatever he can, whenever he can. I
am so grateful. Friends make all the difference, and to almost have

jXwXeXrXmXoXnXt...

You're not kidding! I can compare two significant relationship breakups
in my life, one in 1987 and the other in '99. In '87 I had also lost a
lot of friends and had been very stressed for a long time. I pretty
much fell apart when my SO and I split. In '99, I was very suddenly
and rether unceremoniously dumped by my long-term SO, and I was really
scared I was going to have another 1987. But a very close friend said
to me, "Don't forget that you have a lot of people in your life right
now who really care about you," and I realized it was true. And suddenly,
I knew right then that I was going to be OK. I was still in pain, still
angry and grieving, but I knew I wasn't going to fall apart. I was able
to keep my life going. My kitties played a big role in that, too!

lost one had me so depressed I just about gave up on life.

Joy...

I'm so happy to hear that, Ginger-lyn! Friends are important, especially
when you're going through a bad time.

CatNipped...

I'm glad you got your friend back.

And so today I follow in Yowie's footsteps, and begin to take
antidepressants. I hope they will help me through this time, give me
more energy, and help my outlook. I really, really hate going this
route, but when your pulmonologist's intern thinks you should be on

jXwXeXrXmXoXnXt...

How come? I mean, how come you hate going this route? It might be the
best thing you can do for yourself at the moment. It doesn't have to
be permanent.

So glad things are getting better - purrs for that to continue!

antidepressants, I guess it's way past time to give it a try.

CatNipped...

I really don't know why people resist taking anti-depressants when they need
them. It should be viewed the same as a diebetic taking insulin - there's
something your body needs to function properly and you shouldn't hesitate to
take it. There is (or should be) no stigma in needing to adjust the
chemistry of your body when it is out of whack.

Yowie...

There is *nothing* wrong with taking anti-depessants. The best side effect
for me was being able to sleep. I am a light sleeper at the best of times,
and when I'm worrie dor upset, my mind will go over and over whatever it is
that sbugging me and I don't sleep. The anti-depressants gave me my slep
back, and that in itself made thigns alot better.

What they did for me is simply stop that "overwhelmed and helpless"
feeling - allowed m to keep functioning without going seriously nuts (and I
needed to keep functioning for Cary's sake if nothing else).

I'm no longer taking them now, because life has settled down, and I'm
getting more sleep. But I have *no idea* what I would have done for those 6
months when I was takign them. I'd call them lifesavers in more ways than
one.

You're going through so much turmoil right now, I'd be surprised if *anyone*
could cope wihout anti-depressants. They don't turn you into a zombie,
rather, they just take the edge off the stress and worry so you can through
the rough patch. You may not need them forever, but my goodness do they help
when you do.

Don't feel ashamed, that would be like being ashamed of a your cast on a
broken leg or -as someone else put it - taking insulin for diabetes. The
certainly can't rectify the problems hat Real LIfe has thrown at you, but
what hey can give you is the emotional stability to deal with those problems
appropriately rahter than them becoming all-consuming.

*Hugs*

Yowie
PS Glad you got our friend back, too.

Wish me luck!

Victor Martinez...

Lots of purrs.

CatNipped...

Purrs that things start going smoothly for you.

Ginger-lyn

Adrian A...

Purrs that things work out, good luck.

Joy...

I do! With your friend to help you, and the antidepressants to balance your
body chemistry, you're on the right track to get through this and come out
the other side. And there will be another side, even though you can't see
it right now.

Sam...

Glad to hear you've worked it out with your friend. Purrs that the
anti-depressants help. And don't forget that we're here for you with an
endless supply of purrs whenever you need them.

polonca12000...

I'm so glad to hear the friend is helping you now.
We are purring and sending best wishes that the antidepressants help you
feel much better really soon,
Polonca and Soncek

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